tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1275996914383242610.post8112617999887839868..comments2023-10-31T02:27:18.201-07:00Comments on Her Every Cent Counts - a quarter life crisis, and change: Dating: Who Pays?her every cent countshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03559826632110489586noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1275996914383242610.post-20104654281171814072007-06-25T16:38:00.000-07:002007-06-25T16:38:00.000-07:00I think people with different backgrounds (cultura...I think people with different backgrounds (cultural, geographical, age, etc) have different expectations when it comes to the who pays issue.<BR/><BR/>I'm 31, married, and no longer in the dating scene. I was raised in the South and was taught from Day 1 about <I>chivalry</I>. Unfortunately, I think it's a fading trend in the States, but I was taught to believe that the man pays. The woman offers, but the man pays. If she doesn't offer, she's not interested. If he doesn't pay, he's not interested. <BR/><BR/>My wife grew up in Northern CA and is about 5 years younger than me. In CA, it seems much more common to either "go dutch" or to alternate who pays. Plus, in my wife's age group, it seemed more common not to go out on traditional dates - at least within her friends' circle. Instead, they hung out a lot in groups with their friends, but were like "friends with benefits". Much more casual.<BR/><BR/>When my wife and I first started dating, I paid all the time, which bothered her some (she told me that later on in the relationship) because she wasn't used to it. As we got more serious, the money issue became less important and sometimes I agreed to let her pay... sometimes. <BR/><BR/>Long story short, if the person ends up being important enough to consider a future with, the short term loss of dating money is just an investment in the long term gain of having a good life partner. If you're sweating over whether to pay for the date or save it for grad school (or a sweater), then you may not be that interested in the guy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707714659880079791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1275996914383242610.post-90566932055610543172007-06-23T20:41:00.000-07:002007-06-23T20:41:00.000-07:00In general most of my dates are paid for by me. H...In general most of my dates are paid for by me. However, if the girl ever offers to pay, which surprisingly does happen no days, I let her.apexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02131528772563124629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1275996914383242610.post-49345934786786873332007-06-22T19:52:00.000-07:002007-06-22T19:52:00.000-07:00The hubby and I used to take turns paying. The pe...The hubby and I used to take turns paying. The person paying also came up with the agenda.<BR/><BR/>So if I was broke, broke, <BR/>it was a dinner at my place<BR/>and a video rental.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com